Still single? Maybe you got ditched. Maybe you got lost in the modern dating game. Maybe you just can’t feel that connection with anyone lately. Whatever your reason for being single, don’t let it define your worth.What most men don’t realise is that the qualities that attract the right women aren’t the obvious ones. It’s not necessarily about six-packs, a luxury car, or being the loudest guy in the room. For incredible women, the traits that matter run deeper than that. In a video shared on Instagram, Blaine Anderson, a matchmaker and dating coach, lists eight signs that suggest you are already ahead of most men, and that an amazing partner is within your reach. It’s just a matter of days or weeks.
Traits that separate you from the ‘average guys’
Anderson knows a thing or two about dating. She has been Cupid for many couples, and she surely knows when someone is above average. Let’s take a look at those signs.
You think long-term
According to the dating coach, men who have long-term plans about career, relationships, and health are highly valued in the dating game. “You’re thinking in decades. And you’re not only chasing dopamine.”
People quietly admire you
You might not even realise it, but people copy your habits and choices. “People copy your habits and choices subconsciously. And perhaps without giving you the credit you deserve,” she said.
You have great emotional control
Emotions don’t control you; you control them. According to Anderson, having emotional control even when you get stressed, rejected, or face setbacks is a quality most women desire in their partners. “Maybe you bend, but you don’t break.”
You are hungry for growth
Another great aspect of a high-value man is that he is always looking for growth. “You’re still hungry. Sure, you’ve accomplished things already, but you know you’re still just getting started,” she said.
You can be alone
Are you comfortable being alone? Not feeling lonely even when you are alone is a great trait women look for in their partners. “You don’t need constant validation or noise. You’re comfortable in your own company,” she explained.
You create opportunities for others
Successful men don’t climb the ladder alone. You’ve already won if you pull the people you care about up with you, she says.
You live with intention
Do you make deliberate choices about how you spend your time and energy? Congratulations — you are a high-quality individual. “Your calendar reflects your values, not just what other people ask you to do,” the matchmaker adds.
You’re not afraid to ask for help
People who are not entitled are simply the best. “For example, if you’re not meeting women you like today, you shoot me a note and learn how I can get your dating life unstuck fast,” Anderson said.If these signs resonate with you, you’re already ahead. Eros, the Greek god of love and passion, is working in your favour!